Jour 8 - The Art of Asking, Amanda Palmer
Lecture en cours : morceaux choisis de la première moitié du livre.
The questions behind the question
“Almost every important human encounter boils down to the act, and the art, of asking.
Asking is, in itself, the fundamental building block of any relationship. Constantly and usually indirectly, often wordessly, we ask each other - our bosses, our spouses, our friends, our employees - in order to build and maintain our relationships with one another.
Will you help me?
Can I trust you?
Are you going to screw me over?
Are you suuuure I can trust you?
And so often underneath it all, these questions originate in our basic, humain longing to know:
Do you love me?”
Everybody struggles with asking
“Everybody struggles with asking.
From what I’ve seen, it isn’t so much the act of asking that paralyzes us - it’s what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one.
It points, fundamentally, to our separation from one another.
American culture in particular has instilled in us the bizarre notion that to ask for help amounts to an admission of failure. But some of the most powerful, successful, admired people in the world seem, to me, to have something in common: they ask constantly, creatively, compassionately, and gracefully.”
“Everybody has access to different tools, people, resources, situations, opportunities. If you’re privileged enough to have family well-off enough to loan you money for your first recording? TAKE IT.
If you have a friend with a shack on the beach who’s offering you a quiet place to write? TAKE IT.
There’s really no honor in proving that you can carry the entire load on your own shoulders. And… it’s lonely.”